There’s a churning in your stomach and you’re feeling uneasy. You know that you should walk away and shut whatever, whomever, it is out of your life…but you can’t seem to. You know that you shouldn’t continue with this…don’t do it, don’t do it, don’t do it.
But you do it.
Now, fast forward: it’s 6 months later; it’s a year and a half later; it’s six years later, and you’re shattered. Whatever it was took everything that you had to offer and now you feel as if there’s nothing left. Whether it be a boyfriend, a best friend, a financial situation, a job; whatever it may be, it took everything.
“Listen to you intuition; go with your gut feeling.” It’s a phrase that has been ingrained into our brains since we were young. More often than not, though, we don’t listen to our intuition…or we don’t know how. Regardless, when we do get broken into those million pieces, we start to regret not listening to those warning signs we “so clearly” saw before.
Don’t you dare regret those decisions. You just gave yourself your best chance.
Not listening to our intuition is part of life. We’re only human and we make mistakes. But I don’t want you to regret not listening to your intuition: it’s how we learn and it’s how we grow; it’s how we mature.
Chances are, you’ll go through a couple heartbreaks before you actually catch on. I was lucky enough to have my heart broken in each of the categories listed above. I’ve had the pleasure of feeling loss, disappointment, stress, depression and so many other negative emotions to their fullest extent.
And each time after I was broken into those million little pieces, I was at my worst. I was at that point where I felt as if there was nothing left…and I let myself feel that way, too.
But each time those heartbreaks occurred, I learned. I learned how to adapt and how to adjust and I came away with this: let yourself feel whatever way you want for a week or two; let your emotions run their course.
And I did.
And then one day, I was okay.
Being at my worst taught me this: there is beauty in the breakdown. I learned more about myself in those two week spans then I ever knew before. Each heartbreak in my life was a way to discover a new kind of strength within myself and I found, through my friends and family, a love I didn’t even know I was capable of feeling.
Each time, I accepted my situations for what they were and then I made each situation all about me. I decided to focus on myself and what I needed to do in order to give myself my best possible chance moving forward.
I used my worst moments to make the rest of my life the best of my life. From now on, I want you to welcome every situation, accept every situation and then find the best in every situation because I can wholeheartedly say that if I had listened to my warning signs, I may not be the person I am today and honestly, I love the person I am today.
Despite the hardships I’ve gone though, and the hardships you’ll go through, I can guarantee that you will be more than proud of the person you become because you fought to become that person. Although ignoring your intuition may be a bumpy road, it’s a more than fulfilling one.
“I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I needed to be.” -Douglas Adams